Sometimes people fuck up. Good people. Sweet people. Lonely people. A friend, who is married, looked to those she cared for to get the comfort and love that she wasn't getting at home. One guy popped up who showed her extra and an online relationship began. At first it was sweet. Teasing on the boards (not mine) and conversations. Then it became more and they were openly viewed as a 'couple'. I've always said she needs to break away first, then look for love. But that is someone looking in from the outside. I supported her and hoped for the best. The expected happened... her husband found the emails and looked on the board. They spoke and she asked for a divorce. He wanted a chance and she said yes, but it wasn't in her heart. This should have been a clue. A lesson learned. But instead of deleting the emails and laying low the guy manages to have his wife find them and she leaves. Instead of dropping the balls and accepting his choices he whined and said he'd made a huge mistake. Publicly. It was sooo not cool. Now my friend is trying to work through what to do next and deal with the pain of not having him to help her along emotionally.

It's been pointed out that I'm milder on the Sims site. I guess I am... considering I didn't rip him a new one when reading the post. I don't dislike the guy... I'm just not happy with his actions. A lesson (hopefully) learned and more drama to put behind for my friend, and one more reason for me to make sure the channels are open with Jake . I think we're doing pretty good as far as not hiding things from each other. We share IM messages, PMs, posts and phone call conversations. I trust him and I hope that he trusts me. Relationships can be a bitch, y'all!

*sigh* After being home sick for three days I was finally starting to feel better and all hell broke loose at an unlikely spot: My one favorite Sims site. Part of me feels guilty because I spoke up about something that bothered me (which quickly blossomed into a full blown head-scratching event). But the other part of me still stands my ground. Yeah, so details...

A while back someone posted an annoying thread about how they were shocked that no one had known about them. I kid you not. Everyone was as polite as can be as they posted about how they were talented, etc... (I'm doing this from memory so don't hold me to everything being in line) and managed to hit a nerve with me. I bit my lip and mentioned the thread to a member who had been there a while and they said they felt the same way. I held back, not wanting to cause a stir but finally ended up calling them on their post. The woman clarified things, promised to upload content to show their work and all was happy again. We'd get new content, they'd have a place to upload.. blah blah blah. Except for one thing... she never uploaded squat. Instead she decided to start a forum and invite members over. I totally understand wanting to have control of your work and it's always nice to have your own spot... but it's the WAY she did it that I just wasn't thrilled with. She posted about getting new member sign ups, and kept posting about needing more people. One another person's forum. Without contributing squat. It was quite rude in my opinion. But hey, we can't all be classy broads can we (shut up Mike)?

Yesterday I saw a new post about the other person's site. I went to the site and noticed a Goals thread. Since I didn't see any content (and you know I love the custom content) I clicked on the goals thread to see what they were planning to do. *sigh* I should have just clicked off. I should have just held it in. But on the thread one guy (another total sweetheart) said to go spam the hell out of InSim (my favorite site). I was so taken aback, especially since they know all that the owners are going through. I went back to the InSim site and saw one nice guy posting about going there and I Pmd him with a thump. I just didn't know what to say. I was really annoyed with the spamming guy, but since I don't know the personalities I went for the one I figured I could talk to (but not knowing how to say it). Unfortunately he wasn't around and the original commenter was. I PMd him and spoke my mind. It had nothing to do with them posting on the board. I would never do that. We ALL post on different boards. It was about the spamming. And the fact that no one said it wasn't cool. In return the guy jumped the gun, said he was really spying on the site to see if they'd keep their word or just steal content (yes, this is a problem) and posted some mini rant about it. I was mortified. Enter nice guy number two. The first guy I thought would be easier to talk to (even if he thinks I think he's weird... weirdo). He jumps to defend the site, not knowing what transpired and I try to stamp out a fire and end up chatting on IM for a while with him. We worked things out (between the two of us) and hopefully all will be good on InSim too. I'm half dreading going there just to see the aftermath. Hopefully the chick that the post was directed to will be respectful enough to either ignore it or give a simple explanation as to why she never posted on InSim. As long as there's some sort of closure and we can get back to having fun and downloading custom content.

I ended up tossing and turning last night, just thinking that things weren't resolved. Plus... why the hell did the nice guy think I was... I dunno. standoffish maybe? Granted, I don't curse like a sailor there, but I did think I was the same person. I dunno. Maybe I have some sort of Sybil in me (shut up Mike and Mike). Yay for more drama....