It's been so many years since I've had to deal with family issues I'm at a loss. :Jake:'s mom is just being ridiculous. All I can do is stand beside Jake and support him through this time. I can understand her missing him and his infrequent calls obviously aren't enough to sustain her mood swings. At this point I don't think daily calls will make her happy. This morning we did our usual routine of messing around with the computer while getting ready for work. Jake went off to get ready and came back to check a new IM. Suddenly he yells, "Oh what the fuck!" His mother sent him a "guilt text message"

Mother-in-law: Hi Jake it's mom wanting to say hi and i love you. why don't you call me any more am i that unimportant that you don't call to see how everyone is? or are too busy to gave a damn? i would love an a response someday. It hurts me alot knowing that you think I'm don't that important any more . i know you have your own life with Odessa ,but forget who took care of you some many years. i love you with all my heart and more please call me . i work 11-8:PM .

After staring at each other in total disbelief I tried my hardest to be supportive. Ten minutes later the phone rang. He looked at the Caller ID (thank G-d for that) and sure enough it was his mom. We were just leaving the house and shook his head and let it ring. She hung up. He decided that he would call her over the weekend. He didn't want to be upset at work and frankly he didn't want her to think that acting out would get a result. It's like she's in her terrible twos.

It's hard to know what to say at times. It's been so long since I've even dealt with family matters. I know it would be nice to talk to his mother more, but every time he calls her it ends up being a guilt fest. I can't blame him for not wanting to spend his time off being chewed out. The other day he spent 45 minutes of his hour lunch chatting with her and then tried to get off the phone so he could eat his lunch and be back in fifteen minutes. She got offended. It's a no win situation.

I used to dream about moving to Texas and finally having a family. We would meet up for a girls night out or brunch and just chat about everything and nothing at all. Now all I can think about is moving just close enough for emergencies and holidays. Welcome to family life...

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