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No More
I can't take this anymore. Honestly... it's getting rediculous. I have a friend who I care for. He's a complete sweetheart. He's also driving me up the fucking wall. He went from a great guy that I enjoyed chatting with to someone who starts every conversation with 'Do you like me anymore' or 'Are you through with being stressed?' I used to be very comfortable talking to him. Now I dread the same questions. I asked him numerous times to understand that I am dealing with a lot of stress with the layoffs and move and to please give me some space. He responded by IMing and PMing me asking if we were still friends. I finally told him that I couldn't take it anymore and that we shouldn't talk for a while. I told him that I would contact him. He continued as if I said nothing. This all started because he blurted out that he didn't like Bane, who happens to be my best friend. Bane, on the other hand, has no problems with him. Bane's only spoken to him once or twice and thought he was a nice guy. While I was flabbergasted, I respected his feelings. That didn't stop him from laying into me about how he felt about him. I finally put my foot down about it and asked him EXACTLY what he didn't like. He could never answer me. When he saw that Bane was posting more on NCT again he flipped. He sent me a bizarre PM saying that although he was never 100% on NCT (more like 3%) he was leaving it for good. This was right after I had told people that I needed to get away from all the online drama. Gee... thanks. I hate losing friends, but I feel like he is forcing me to make a choice. His constant PMs, IMs and emails are borderline stalking. So far I've just ignored his messages (after the one that said not to contact me). This morning I woke up to two IMs, two PMs and FOUR emails... all saying the same thing. I lost it. I emailed him back saying to stop all contact. I told him that he was making me miserable and to just STOP. My next step is to just be a raving bitch... or sick my boyfriend on him. Posted by Diva at April 28, 2005 10:30 AM
Trackback PingsTrackBack URL for this entry: CommentsPosted by: Marcy at April 28, 2005 11:01 AM  You already know my opinion. It sort of amuses and at the same time concerns me that he has such a harsh opinion of me when he doesn't even know me... at all. It's not so much that he doesn't like me that bothers me, but why... It all looks (from an outside standpoint) like an extreme jealousy of a sort, and from someone who is supposed to just be a friend... well it's scary. Friends don't usually have those kind of problems, such things are usually reserved for a couple in a relationship. When it happens outside a relationship it's usually .. you know ... stalking.. When I see the emails that he sends I really do understand the emotional turmoil he seems to be finding himself in. I think it's really less a matter of his being stupid or clueless as just somewhat uncaring of your situation. He seems fixated on the fact that he's losing a friend in his eyes, and not realizing that it's his tunneled outlook making him not realize what hes doing to you and that he's causing it. Hopefully the last message will make him take a step back and think about things. Posted by: Bane at April 28, 2005 12:04 PM  I agree about him trying not to lose a friend. But he's becoming obsessed about it to the point of being scary. I've been talking to him the whole time (minus the past two weeks really) and he is acting like it's been months. When we spoke before all this it wasn't more than once or twice a week or two. At times I went almost a month without chatting. As for his reaction to you... It's some bizarre jealousy for sure. You've only been nice to him and when he's been in the channel. Posted by: Diva at April 28, 2005 12:14 PM I can fix that. Posted by: Bane at April 28, 2005 12:16 PM  There comes a time when you gotta stop being nice about things and put your foot down. Too bad it had to come to that, but it wasn't going to get through any other way. *hugs* Posted by: BigAl at April 28, 2005 07:10 PM  *must kill idiot* Posted by: whitecrow at May 1, 2005 07:25 PM Post a comment |
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He sounds creepy, I'm glad he left NCT and I hope he stops stalking you! Geez some people!